Subtitle: Avoiding the letdown very carefully
This Sunday is my first Mother’s Day as a mom! I am thrilled! Excited! Prepared!
You see, I suffer from this strange phenomenon of assuming that my husband (and others in my life) can read my mind. Couple that with BIG EXPECTATIONS of life’s milestones and a sensitive personality and you can imagine how special events in my life can get interesting. Despite the best of intentions, I can sometimes be found sulking at the end of a big day because it did not meet my expectations.
My sulking does not only punish others (my husband), but it also punishes ME. It mostly punishes me because I am the one left perseverating on whatever has made me upset while others get to move on. I suffer greatly on days when I haven’t voiced my expectations in a fair way. Carrying this anger and disappointment weighs heavily on me and is no bueno for my health and sanity.
So this Mother’s Day, I’m turning it all around.
Here are some of the things that I’ve done to prepare for a spectacular Mother’s Day:
- I found a low key but special activity that I want to do with my family and I purchased tickets.
- I discussed my wishes with my husband 2 weeks before Mother’s Day. He knows that I would like to feel special and appreciated. No presents are necessary, only extra effort to make me feel taken care of and beautiful. We’ve clearly laid out the schedule for the day, to keep us on the same page. I’ve also voiced the expectation that he is prepared for the day in advance- this makes me feel cared for because he has gone out of his way to be thoughtful.
- I’ve contacted my mother and stepmother regarding our plans for the weekend. My husband is in charge of coordinating his family.
- I’m keeping my expectations realistic. I am not going to get a hot air balloon ride at sunrise. I am going to have a nice, quiet day with my family at the local tulip farm and maybe lunch. It might sound silly, but I have to intentionally say things like this to myself to remember to keep myself in check.
A hot air balloon ride would be nice, but a day with my sweet family at a tulip garden sounds like perfection. I’ll keep you posted on how it went!
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